Couples and Money

The number one reason why people get divorced is related to money, and it all boils down to one thing: communication. One of the most important aspects of a successful marriage is getting on the same page with your spouse regarding finances.

Denise Hughes discusses four tips how to get the same page with your spouse and how to have that conversation:

1. Gaining CLARITY in every aspect of your financial picture. This means being willing to “look” at what is. After all, your numbers are merely a reflection of the behaviors you bring to your financial life as a couple. So, “looking” at your numbers is going to help you “see” what behaviors are behind those numbers. Stepping into clarity is an act of courage and a reclaiming of your personal financial power. It really is hard to change your financial picture when your financial numbers are fuzzy and you aren’t sure where you stand. Fuzzy numbers don’t guide you to the best choices for your particular situation.

2. TALK about money as a couple (as much as you talk about other things). Set aside time each week to problem solve your money puzzles that come up. Weekly check-in’s are a must when it comes to knowing where you stand in comparison to income available and expenses requiring your attention.

3. TACKLE limiting money beliefs or mindsets that do not move you forward to your highest goal. Sometimes, the symptoms of a limiting money mindset comes out in these ways: over spending, impulse purchases, under-earning, not being able to save while earning, hoarding money and basically behaviors that create distance between you and your money! If there is a gap between what you desire your money picture to look like and what it actually is, the odds are a limiting belief is present.

4. RECONCILING DIFFERENT VALUES is a must. Both of you need to be on the same page and share a vision of what you want to accomplish in your financial life. Maybe this is creating a solid foundation for your family which leverages you to build wealth. It is important to verbalize your thoughts about what you want to create, agree on a mutual vision and then take action toward your vision.

Adam Taufique

Adam Taufique is a founding member of Qur'an Weekly and Debt Free Muslims. He is a regular khateeb in his community and has served in Masjids from being a weekend school teacher to youth coordinator. You can follow him on Google+ or on Twitter @adamtaufique.

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